Our sexual health and the health of our yoni is as important as our overall health and wellness. If you're experiencing pain, numbness or emotional charge in your yoni, that's a clear indication that it's in need of some TLC.
The idea behind yoni dearmouring is that trauma, negative emotions and past experiences can be stored in the physical body, specifically in the vagina. These memories can manifest as tension, pain, discomfort, or a lack of sensation. Through the process of yoni dearmouring, a person can release these stored emotions and physical sensations and reclaim their sense of pleasure and connection to their body. It's one method of healing and creating a harmonious relationship with this part of our bodies. It helps you to become more orgasmic and experience free flowing energy.
Our yoni is the most receptive part of our body. It's where we take in our partner and we receive that energy into our space. Sometimes that energy can be great, expansive and passionate. And other times it's not all those good things, it might be transactional, or an energy of "we may as well/should". Our yoni absorbs that energy and holds onto it, so it's important to be conscious of how we are being entered, whether it's solo or with a partner, our yoni holds stress and tension.
Trauma is a very charged word, and there are different types of trauma, soft and hard. An example of soft trauma could be something like inserting a tampon even when it feels uncomfortable or like you don't want it. Your yoni is objecting but you push through because you're late for work or whatever the circumstance may be. And then harder trauma like abuse. As you can imagine, there is a wide array of experiences in between the two ends of the spectrum that could get classified as trauma that our bodies hold on to. Pap smears, child birth, surgery, friction during sex. Even our partners entering us before we are fully ready and open, it's not coming from a negative or abusive place but it creates a sense of tension within the yoni.
Dearmouring removes the armour and barriers that we have unconsciously created to protect ourselves.
So how do you dearmour your yoni?
Find a space where you are comfortable, relaxed and have time and privacy available to you. This is not something to be rushed or be interrupted.
Go into this practice with a sense of curiosity & learning. No judgement, no expectations. This can be like opening pandora's box. One spot could open a whole can of worms and others you may experience nothing at all. There is no right or wrong and every time you do this, you will have a different experience.
This is not a sexual act but rather one of love and self care, the desired outcome is not orgasm, although, it can lead to that.
1. Find a safe space.
Sit in front of the mirror and get comfortable on a nest of pillows and blankets with your back against something so you can lean back and relax while still being propped up.
2. External dearmouring.
Start with external dearmouring by applying gentle pressure to the mound of your yoni and holding for a few seconds, breathing into the area and releasing.
Moving to your clitoral hood, your outer labia and so on, applying gentle pressure to each centimetre of your vulva, holding each point for a few seconds and breathing deeply. Taking notice of what thoughts and emotions come up, if any, but not judging them. Some areas you may want to focus on for a little longer to release any discomfort or emotional response.
Use plenty of lubricant. You can see our range here.
3. Notice the sensations.
Explore how each point feels, is it painful, is it pleasureable, has this are been explored before? Experiment with different sensations, gentle pinching, pulling, massage. There is no right way, but be slow and present. Yoni mapping and dearmouring can be similar to foot reflexology and trigger different responses within your body, you may notice gurgling or rumbling in your tummy, you may notice tingling sensations etc.
Explore the urethra, tap on it circle it, how does it feel? Is it painful, pleasurable, does it feel uncomfortable?
Look at your vulva, get to know it, show it love, compassion, care.
Be present with any emotions that come up, breathe through it, feel it, release it. You don't need to analyse every emotion or thought.
Did you know that your body can only hold an emotion at full force for about 2 minutes. After that, your prolonged emotional experience is your memory and your mind choosing to hold it for longer. Feel your emotions fully and allow them to dissipate.
4. Internal Dearmoruing.
When venturing into the vagina, bring awareness to your entrance and wait for your vagina to draw you in, you will receive a very clear yes.
When entering, go in 1-2 cm and map the clock, starting at 6pm on the bottom wall of your vagina toward the anus and perineum. Hold gentle pressure there at 6 o'clock. Notice: is there pain, pleasure, discomfort, ache, tension, resistance, fear, bliss. No judgement. What emotions are presenting themselves? As you breathe through the pressure, if you feel the need to express vocally, do so. It's a powerful act of release. When you release pressure you will notice the sensation of new blood flow coming to the area. Stay on the area for as long as you feel necessary.
Move to 3 or 9 o'clock on the side wall of the vagina and repeat.
12 o'clock and repeat.
3 or 9 o'clock and repeat.
Moving in an additional 1-2 cm for each round.
5. Cervical Dearmouring.
Depending on your body you may not be able to reach your cervix which is why we created the Luna Glass Wand. A curved wand allows you to reach the cervix and apply gentle pressure.
Press and hold for 5 seconds, breathing into your cervix, noticing the connection between your heart and yoni. Release and repeat this a few times.
When you feel your cervix has been dearmoured, we encourage you to hold pressure on your cervix for 3 whole minutes.
This can bring up a lot of emotions but ride the wave and upon pressure release, you may experience a full body emotional reaction. It might be a wave of complete calm and peace, it might be laughter, anger, sadness. Or it may be nothing at all. There is no right or wrong. Whatever you experience though, sit with it. Breathe through it.
After the dearmouring process your yoni will feel more supple, alive & happy.
We all want a happy yoni!
Additionally, vaginal dearmouring can be a powerful tool for self-discovery and healing, but it's not for everyone and it's important to approach it with care and respect. It's important to be mindful of your own boundaries and comfort level, and to work with a practitioner who is trained and experienced in this type of work if you feel called to do so.
Our microbiome is impacted by the emotional wellbeing of our vagina. If you're experiencing thrush, urinary tract infections, bacterial vaginosis, odour or discomfort, it's likely that your yoni is crying out for some self care.
In conclusion, Vaginal dearmouring is a form of bodywork that aims to release tension, trauma, and negative emotions stored in the vaginal muscles. It can be a powerful tool for self-discovery and healing, but it's important to approach it with care and respect.
It's important to note that vaginal dearmouring is not a substitute for traditional medical or psychological treatment.
If you are interested in more support in Yoni Dearmoring and connecting with your yoni and sexual essence as a vulva owner, we invite you to consider joining The Golden Yoni Membership.